Everyone has a secret that they want to let out but can’t. Everyone has those feelings that they want to share but can’t. Everyone has that something that they want to say but are never strong enough to say them. Everyone has one of those secrets that eats you alive until you have to tell someone. Everyone has secrets, some are just bigger and dirtier than others.
Everyone has a dirty little secret. Maybe you lost a job, maybe you didn’t graduate from college, maybe you stole something or maybe you know something you shouldn’t have. I call these our dirty little secrets. Things you are ashamed of. Things that are holding you back from doing something great.
The wonderful and amazing thing about dirty little secrets:
1.We all have them.
2.Whatever our secret is– it is probably only ‘dirty’ to us.
Over the years, we have taken our secret and cultivated it. We have become experts at growing the secret and allowing it to limit us, hold us back and keep us stuck. Basically we have fine tuned the secret. The irony of it is that we assume that everyone in the world is judging us for the eating too much or getting heartbroken when in reality everyone in the world is too consumed with their own dirty little secret to judge us.
Yes, your dirty little secret might be painful and shame filled. And it deserves to be grieved, honored and moved past. We all have dirty little secrets.
So the next time you hear yourself say, “I can’t do that because I have this dirty little secret”.
Is my secret REALLY that dirty?
Did I learn something in the process?
Do I have unfinished stuff from this secret; (Do I need to grieve, apologize, forgive myself for someone else?)
Am I a better person because of that secret?
Could someone learn from me if I shared it with the world?
What is this secret holding me back from?
How would my life be different if I worked on letting it go?
When it comes to me, I forgive but I don’t forget. Cheers! x