Doesn’t it suck when you find out that someone who was a part of your life was never who they pretended to be?
That’s when disappointment hits you. But what does disappointment really mean? Disappointment is just the action of your brain readjusting itself to reality after discovering things are not the way you thought they were. People lie and they tell you what you want to hear. That’s how you end up falling in love with the person you thought they were.
There is the world we live in and then there is our perception of that world. It’s like fantasy and reality.
Judgers approach life in a structured way, creating plans and organizing their world to achieve their goals and desired results in a predictable way.
They get their sense of control by taking charge of their environment and making choices early.
They are self-disciplined and decisive, and seek closure in decisions. When they ask for things they are specific and expect others to do as they say. They enjoy being experts.
At work, they decide quickly and clearly and work to get the job done.
Perceivers may see them as rigid and opinionated.
Perceivers perceive structure as being more limiting than enabling. They prefer to keep their choices open so they can cope with many problems that the know life will put in their way.
They get their sense of control by keeping their options open and making choices only when they are necessary.
They are generally curious and like to expand their knowledge, which they will freely acknowledge as being incomplete. They are tolerant of other people’s differences and will adapt to fit into whatever the situation requires.
At work, they tend to avoid or put off decisions and like most the exploration of problems and situations.
Judgers may see them as aimless drifters.
You never know what a person has been through. Be careful judging someone by what their life looks like from the outside, because you have no idea what it’s been like for the person living it.
“In all professions each affects a look and an exterior to appear what he wishes the world to believe that he is. Thus we may say that the whole world is made up of appearances.” – Francois de La Rochefoucauld