Ever felt like you’re surrounded with friends but when you feel the need to have a heart-to-heart talk, you can’t find a soul? Or been to an event or a party but ending up sitting quietly, watching television in a corner, sipping your drink? But just because you can’t fit in and you’re alone, doesn’t mean you’re lonely.
There are many causes of loneliness, but many people don’t realize that they don’t have to live with it. They can confront it and deal with it. Loneliness often manifests as an inner ache, a vacuum, or a craving for affection. Its side effects include feelings of emptiness, uselessness or purposelessness.
Are you alone (independent, solitary, on your own)? Or, are you lonely (desolate, deserted, dejected due to a lack of companionship)? There is a very real difference. It’s important to realize that just because you are alone, it doesn’t mean you must be lonely or lonesome. While it may not always be possible to avoid being alone, there are always answers to loneliness. Many times loneliness results from a trauma or crisis due to the death of a loved one, a divorce, or separation. When something happens that makes us realize that things are never going to be the way they once were, it often creates crisis or trauma in our lives, which can lead to a sense of loneliness and despair.
But don’t hang on to those feelings. Learn to let go and move forward. Life is all about moving forward to achieve your goals no matter how dim or dark the present feels like. Indulge in new hobbies, meet new people and make your life a meaningful one.
Don’t give up, keep trying. You are never alone and never feel lonely.
PS: Happy Halloween! Its really sad how we, Malaysians, don’t celebrate it. My childhood would be so filled with candies! 😀 My dream to go to the States will, hopefully, come true when I go there in another year or two to continue my studies. In the meantime, there are plenty of of stuff to keep me busy here in Malaysia. 🙂 Have a great day!